29 Nov Are you a Love, Sex, or Porn Addict? Insights From my Russell Brand’s TV Show

What are the Most Common Indicators of Love, Sex and Porn Addictions?

Is sexuality your way to connect with people? Do you watch Porn almost every day, sometimes more than once a day? Is for you porn an escape from your reality, or is sexuality a way to destress from this crazy F*****g world? Do you wank yourself when you feel bored, or alone…?

Are you only looking for this millisecond of orgasm?

What does it mean for you love addiction? Today a lot of people talk about toxic relationships, so could love being an addiction? If yes, How? Are you creating drama to feel alive? Victimization…? 

Honestly, how many times after fucked a woman you felt awful… “damn what I just did… why… I’m feeling dirty…”

Ladies how many times after bring back a man home, you felt horrible, disrespectful to yourself… or dirty…

Let’s have a look at all those topic okay!?

So as you already know, I’ve been invited by Russell Brand to being on his TV Show and talk about addictions.
Russell is really one of my great hero and a great wise man. I’ve been so lucky to see his human design and enjoyed his incarnation cross of consciousness. An Emotional Manifesting Generator!! 

I fucked up the first 25 years of my life through addictions…

In 2016, I read this book called “The power of Now” from Eckard Tolle, and to be honest, it was a huge revelation for me… Something I really want to share with you is about our pain body. As Eckard mention in his book, we have a pain body, like a suffering body around us, it’s energy obviously – right – and by our behaviors, we feed this body when he needs… And most of the time this is completely unconscious until you start to be aware of it. For that, you have to admit it. The first step for your awakening process according to Russell, and myself actually. Recognize that you are a bit fucked? Recognize that you are feeding your demons, your ego, and energetically this is really heavy and low frequency… 

So, Let’s be honest, I’m an ex-military from Secret Services to Special Forces…
I was really fucked guys. I went into the army because I was hating myself and wanted to kill people. See how fucked up I was. Seeking for gratitude, love, punishing myself and my parents.
Addictions were running my life with sexuality, prostitutes, drama, victimization…
I believed that I wasn’t worthy to be loved. And the only way I could have been loved was to die in hero at war.

I was really hurt from childhood and completely lost in a fucking system that was destroying me and obviously brainwashed my mind.
I was seeking for love, cheating on my girlfriend, avoiding all emotions and hiding behind food, sugar, chocolate and mostly porn…
Pornography was one of my escape, a lot of us were drinking every weekend because it’s alpha male, and when you are a commando you have to be an alpha male right.
So sexuality and alcohol was part of the process. Pointless to tell you how Ego with competition was feeding my demons at this time.
Thank god I never drunk and I’m not a drinking person but bloody hell I messed up my self-esteem, self-confidence and self-love with pornography and hooking girls.

Releasing all the stress and pressure, all the shame and the guilt by having sex with every possible girls I found.

At this time I was dating a really hot gorgeous woman, she was so lovely, so gentle that for me she was my mum. Unconsciously I was seeing her as my mother so I was cheating on her in a way it’s just not possible. Because I was looking for another girlfriend. Constantly looking for this whole feeling, looking outside. Right!?

I was powerless in front my sadness, my childhood, how the divorce from my parents shocked me and the abandoned feeling at the age of 2.

Letting the anger controlled me.
I was self-destructed, self-sabotaged and projecting all this anger in the outside world. I was so fearful that my life was horrible. My mind was completely controlling myself.

But one day I woke up and simply decided to unfucked myself.

Enough was enough, I wanted to change.

5years later, here I am… Invited by Russell Brand on a Tv show.

So, bringing self-awareness is the only option to recover and free yourself from those patterns that obviously destroy your life. What Am I looking for? you should ask yourself before a wank… What do I want?

Love addicts live in a chaotic world of desperate need and emotional despair. Fearful of being alone or rejected, love addicts endlessly search for that special someone – the person that will make the addict feel whole. Ironically, love addicts oftentimes have had numerous opportunities for the truly intimate experience they think they want. But they are much more strongly attracted to the intense experience of “falling in love” than they are to the peaceful intimacy of healthy relationships. As such, they spend much of their time hunting for “the one.” They base nearly all of their life choices on the desire and search for this perfect relationship – everything from wardrobe choices to endless hours at the gym, to engaging in hobbies and other activities that may or may not interest them, to the ways in which they involve others in conversations and social interactions.

Love is the greatest beauty in the world but misunderstood, it could be, and it is the roots of all our issues. It leads to perversion, suffering, pain, addictions… 

Are you suffering from love addiction?

For individuals who are truly seeking a long-term relationship, healthy romantic intensity – the “rush” of first love – is the catalyst that brings about the bonding necessary to sustain an intimate attachment. Love addicts, however, are addicted to the rush of first romance, and because of that their relationships never develop beyond this initial, emotionally elevated state. When they are in a relationship, they feel detached, unhappy, restless, irritable, and discontent because the rush has faded. When they are not in a relationship, they feel desperate, unworthy, and alone… until they find a new potential mate and get to experience the high of “falling in love” once more.

Typical signs of love addiction include:

• Mistaking intense sexual experiences and new romantic excitement for love
• Constantly craving and searching for a romantic relationship
• When in a relationship, being desperate to please and fearful of the other’s unhappiness
• When not in a relationship, feeling desperate and alone
• Inability to maintain an intimate relationship once the newness and excitement have worn off
• Finding it unbearable or emotionally difficult to be alone
• When not in a relationship, compulsively using sex and fantasy to fill the loneliness
• Choosing partners who are emotionally unavailable and/or verbally or physically abusive
• Choosing partners who demand a great deal of attention and caretaking but who do not meet, or even try to meet, your emotional or physical needs
• Participating in activities that don’t interest you or go against your personal values in order to keep or please a partner
• Giving up important interests, beliefs, or friendships to maximize time in the relationship or to please a romantic partner
• Using sex, seduction, and manipulation (guilt/shame) to “hook” or hold on to a partner
• Using sex or romantic intensity to tolerate difficult experiences or emotions
• Missing out on important family, career, or social experiences to search for a romantic or sexual relationship
• Using anonymous sex, porn, or compulsive masturbation to avoid “needing” someone, thereby avoiding all relationships
• Finding it difficult or impossible to leave unhealthy or abusive relationships despite repeated promises to oneself or others to do so
• Repeatedly returning to previously unmanageable or painful relationships despite promises to oneself or others to not do so

While all romantic relationships may exhibit some of the above signs at least occasionally, with love addiction there is a consistent pattern of one or more (usually more) of the signs, and that pattern results in ongoing and eventually escalating negative life consequences.

Much like sex addicts, love addicts are searching for something outside of themselves – a person, relationship, or experience – to provide them with the emotional and life stability they lack. In other words, love addicts use their intensely stimulating romantic experiences to (temporarily) fix themselves and feel emotionally stable. Happily, in a similar fashion to sex addicts – and, in fact, in many of the same treatment and self-help venues – love addicts can find the help they need.

Once again, there is great love here… 

So How Can I heal Myself or as Russell says Are You Ready to UnFucked Yourself?

• First Step is to be aware of your behaviors, about your addictions and truly recognize and admit them. you suck, it’s okay. Now let’s work on it.
•  By bringing self-awareness each time you want to watch porn, or seek for hook up, ask yourself why? what am I looking for? Am I escaping an uncomfortable feeling with myself right now? Am I avoiding something? Why I’m gonna fuck this girl…? 
• Who is talking? Is my ego sad, or struggling with something right now… Am I feeling alone, or lonely? Am I feeding my pain body, my suffering body…
• Am I covering pain, or something from childhood…? rejection, abandoned? 

And I can continue more and more by digging into this self-reflection process… This is how I sort myself out of this shit… 

Sexuality is the most beautiful thing in the world, it’s our divine connection to god, to love, to pure consciousness, and being aware of our relationship is the beginning of our freedom. 

Work on your wounds, work on yourself as we are evolving to the 5D so quickly, so no more hiding, no more excuses. Bring awareness and Love yourself.

I will end with this from a very good friend of mine, “Meditations on Addictions: if you’re addicted to cigarettes, you don’t want to be in your body. If you’re addicted to food, your emotions have the best of you. If you’re addicted to alcohol, you don’t want to be in your life. If you’re addicted to pharma, you’ve been duped into believing you’re something you’re not. If you’re addicted to pot it’s similar to being addicted to cigarettes and you want out of your mind/thoughts. If you’re addicted to sex, you want Love, not sex – those two are confused. If you’re addicted to shopping or material status, your life lacks meaning, you crave more meaning in your daily routine and living overall. Whichever it may be or whatever combination may be appearing just connect w the healthy aspect of whatever’s lacking – healthy emotional state, healthy mind or thoughts, a healthy amount of love, more purpose, reconnecting with life” 

With Blessings & Love

Part of this article is from recovery ranch about love addiction, please it here: https://www.recoveryranch.com/articles/what-are-the-most-common-indicators-of-love-addiction/